Couples Therapy

Of all the forms of therapy I study and practice, working with couples is my favorite. I get to hear both sides and see both perspectives. Instead of talking about a conflict that went bad, I can have the conflict go well – right here, right now, in my office. I get to hear judgment and criticism turn into respectful and vulnerable discussions. I witness complaints as they transform into loving requests. I get to see some people learn to set limits and others develop empathy and compassion. I teach everyone how to become better listeners.

Healthy relationships take time, effort, and often require learning new skills. Along the way, you may need to discern, and then eliminate, unintentional bad habits. It’s also common to find that a core issue is causing you to be more emotionally reactive than the situation warrants. This is when working with a trained, objective, non-judgmental therapist can help you move forward more quickly and efficiently than hoping it will get better on its own.

Some common things I help clients with are:

Building communication and problem solving skills
Speaking your truth powerfully and respectfully
Learning to listen
Deepening your empathy and compassion for one another
Defining and upholding boundaries
Identifying disrespectful behavior and eliminating it
Building a lifestyle of kindness and generosity
Growing your sexual relationship
Developing a mutual sense of understanding, acceptance and value
Maintaining a set of common interests
Knowing how and when to let things go – and when not to

While most couples come to me seeking help with these kinds of issues, your needs may be different. I will listen carefully and help you establish a set of goals and a plan of action specifically tailored to your needs.

Research shows that, when it comes to relationship issues, seeing a therapist who is specifically trained in couples therapy is very important. I have a strong commitment to maintaining the highest levels of education and training in couples specific issues and therapy. I meet with couples weekly for one hour. Sometimes I meet with either or both partners individually for a session or two. Feel free to talk with me about any concerns or questions you might have and I will be happy to advise and accommodate.

Therapy Basics

-I like to start and end our sessions on time. It is helpful, but not necessary, to show up a few minutes early.
-Sessions are one hour long.
-Payment is due at the time of service.

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