Salt Lake City Marriage and Family Therapist

COVID-19 Update:

For all visiting clients, I have taken precautions to wipe down doorknobs and couch armrests between each appointment.  Out of respect for each other and those we live with / care for, I am instituting a safe social-distancing policy in my waiting room and office.  Additionally, I will be offering online video sessions (60 and 90 minute) via ZOOM.  If you or anyone you live with is experiencing cold or flu like symptoms, or is living with someone who is sick, or has been exposed to someone who is sick, please schedule an online appointment instead of an in-person appointment.  I still very much want to work with you, lets just keep one another and those we care for safe.  Hopefully this will all be over as soon as possible.  Please see my sign-up options on this site for online appointment availability.

Hi, I’m Steve Seliger

I’m a licensed marriage and family therapist in Salt Lake City, Utah. I work with couples, families, and individuals to create long-lasting meaningful relationships and useful life skills. With over 20 years of experience, I have a proven track record with a very high success rate in helping my clients achieve fulfillment.

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Couples Therapy

The quality of our primary relationship is one of the most significant factors influencing our happiness, physical and mental health, and even our longevity.

Healthy partners stimulate each other intellectually, manage finances responsibly, and treat one another with kindness and respect. They listen, understand, accept, and support each other.

Creating a relationship like this requires skill development, practice, a willingness to look at oneself and take responsibility for growth, and change. It isn’t always easy, but it is possible.

I teach people the behavioral and emotional skills necessary to develop healthy, loving, supportive relationships. My goal is to help couples relate to one another as best friends, lifelong lovers, playmates, and effective parenting partners, who pitch in together to face the burdens and responsibilities of life.

I will teach you the skills you need. I will help you practice till you get it right. I will listen, understand, and help you when you get stuck.

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Sexual Intimacy

Good sex is one of the most powerful and vitalizing elements of a healthy relationship. How does something so intensely satisfying and important fall into disrepair and neglect? The pressures of work, children, insomnia, arguments, health and personal issues can all present challenges. Ignoring these challenges and hoping or waiting for things to get better doesn’t usually help, in fact it often makes things worse.

The good news is that there are solutions that work. Some answers require behavioral adjustments. Others may be found in working through unfinished issues from the past. Many times a seemingly unrelated relationship issue can impact a couples sexuality. It also isn’t uncommon for medical issues to play a part. I can refer you to, and consult with, a medical doctor if we suspect that a medication, hormone or other physical problem is the culprit.

Whatever the symptom or cause, I will work diligently to help find an effective solution that is satisfying to you both.

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Parent & Child Relationships

They don’t come with a manual. The challenges of parenting, step-parenting, parenting through divorce, parenting children who have mental health or substance abuse problems, or being a single parent can feel insurmountable at times. I teach parents to have healthy boundaries, to set limits without arguing or power struggles, and to have reasonable expectations given their child’s developmental stage. I help parents learn to support one another and how to grow from each parenting episode – even if you’ve made a mistake. Additionally, I help parents teach their children self-respect, to be responsible for themselves, and to be socially/emotionally aware and intelligent with others.

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Individual Therapy

There will be times for all of us when the world is spinning and we struggle to keep our balance. Change, or the threat of change, when the hurt, fear, sadness and confusion can be overwhelming. We were never meant to face such times alone. An understanding and compassionate listener can make a commanding difference. There will be experiences, thoughts and feelings to make sense of. There will likely be choices to make, boundaries to uphold and responsibility to take. There may be loss or grief to come to peace with.

I will be there to help you discern the path to your healing, authenticity, integrity, and self-expression. I will do everything I can to help you achieve your goals as quickly as possible using an approach that fits your individual needs.

You will come to a place where the streets are not marked. Some windows are lighted. But mostly they’re darked. A place you could sprain both your elbow and chin! Do you dare to stay out? Do you dare to go in? How much can you lose? How much can you win?

~Dr. Seuss

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What to Expect


  • I like to start and end our sessions on time. It is helpful, but not necessary, to show up a few minutes early.
  • 1 hour sessions are 50 minutes long, 1.5 hour sessions are 80 minutes long.
  • At times I find it necessary to extend a session for a few minutes. Please be patient and understand that I will do my best to make sure you get your full time allotment.
  • Individual therapy sessions are usually one hour long – but we can arrange longer if circumstances dictate.
  • Couples sessions are usually 1.5 hours long. Longer or shorter sessions can be arranged when appropriate.
  • Payment is due upon scheduling.
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Latest Resources

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    I declare the right to see what I see, hear what I hear, and remember what I remember. I declare the right to say what I see, say what I heard, and say what I remember. Nobody has the right to tell me what I did or did not see, hear, or remember. I will … Continued
  • The Importance of Integrity

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    If your relationship is being affected by an affair, chances are you are on an emotional roller-coaster and your sense of trust has been shattered. It can feel like you are no longer grounded – the person you counted on most for support, trust, stability, reassurance, acceptance, partnership has betrayed you. You don’t know if … Continued