My Bill of Rights (A paraphrase of the Five Freedoms by Virginia Satir)

I declare the right to see what I see, hear what I hear, and remember what I remember.

The Importance of Integrity

How do you know when to trust someone? How do you know when to say “yes” and when to say “no?” How do you decide between two things you really want? Why do you sometimes experience resentment or regret? When is it best to selflessly give to others and when is it best to let others take care of themselves? How do you know when to “follow your heart” or when to “feel the fear, but do it anyway?” In a word: Integrity I often see couples in conflict over issues of integrity.

Recovering From an Affair

If your relationship is being affected by an affair, chances are you are on an emotional roller-coaster and your sense of trust has been shattered.

Using Anger as a Teacher

“He who angers you, conquers you” - Elizabeth Kenny   It is neither realistic nor human to expect that we won’t experience anger.


"Every Warrior of the Light has felt afraid of going into battle.

Setting Limits

Limits only make sense in the light of consistent healthy agreements.

What to do if you can’t sleep

A serious and widespread problem According to the CDC, “About 70 million Americans suffer from chronic sleep problems.

The Gift of Encouragement

Showing interest and support for your partner’s hopes, dreams, fantasies, guilty pleasures, and hobbies is one key to a deeper sense of love and connection.

The importance of listening

Someone I once knew told me that we should listen twice as much as we speak because God gave us two ears and only one mouth.

Agreements for a Healthy and Sustainable Relationship

Healthy, vibrant, nurturing, intimate relationships are supported and sustained when each partner can say: I can be my honest authentic self with you.

The 5 essential elements of a healthy relationship

Two of the most frequently asked questions I get as a relationship therapist are, “What makes a relationship sustainable?” and “How do I know my relationship will last?”  In my experience, all the skills necessary to developing an amazingly healthy relationship fall into five areas of competence I call the five essential elements of a healthy relationship.

Eight Intimate Conversations To Have With Your Partner

Want more intimacy with your partner? Plan a special date, but instead of heading for the bedroom, snuggle on the couch, perhaps by candlelight, and fall into one of these great conversations.

5 rules on how to be normal

Many of my clients have asked, at one time or another, “What is normal?” In an effort to save time and energy, I am printing out these rules on how to be normal so that all of us can be on the same page.

Communicating effectively when emotions run high

Casual conversation, playful banter, passionate exploration, are all fine and fitting communication styles as long as both participants are relatively calm.

Emotional Flooding: Old Brain Vs. New Brain

Virtually all the damage that takes place in relationships happens in unhealthy conflict – fighting and arguing.

What is a healthy relationship?

The focus of my work with couples is to help them build the healthiest relationship possible.