How do you know when to trust someone? How do you know when to say “yes” and when to say “no?” How do you decide between two things you really want? Why do you sometimes experience resentment or regret? When is it best to selflessly give to others and when is it best to let others take care of themselves? How do you know when to “follow your heart” or when to “feel the fear, but do it anyway?” In a word: Integrity I often see couples in conflict over issues of integrity.
If your relationship is being affected by an affair, chances are you are on an emotional roller-coaster and your sense of trust has been shattered.
“He who angers you, conquers you” - Elizabeth Kenny It is neither realistic nor human to expect that we won’t experience anger.
Limits only make sense in the light of consistent healthy agreements.
Showing interest and support for your partner’s hopes, dreams, fantasies, guilty pleasures, and hobbies is one key to a deeper sense of love and connection.
Someone I once knew told me that we should listen twice as much as we speak because God gave us two ears and only one mouth.
Healthy, vibrant, nurturing, intimate relationships are supported and sustained when each partner can say: I can be my honest authentic self with you.
Two of the most frequently asked questions I get as a relationship therapist are, “What makes a relationship sustainable?” and “How do I know my relationship will last?” In my experience, all the skills necessary to developing an amazingly healthy relationship fall into five areas of competence I call the five essential elements of a healthy relationship.
Want more intimacy with your partner? Plan a special date, but instead of heading for the bedroom, snuggle on the couch, perhaps by candlelight, and fall into one of these great conversations.
Casual conversation, playful banter, passionate exploration, are all fine and fitting communication styles as long as both participants are relatively calm.