Parent and Child Therapy
I have years of experience helping parents negotiate the challenges of parenting, step-parenting, parenting through divorce, parenting children who have mental health or substance abuse problems, and parenting alone. I have worked with children and their families in my private office, in residential care, partial care, scholastic, and hospital settings.
Effective parenting is often measured by:
- Demonstrating clear and respectful communication
- Avoiding arguments and power struggles
- Setting clear and realistic expectations
- Being consistent when you discover what works
- Being flexible when something is not working
- Supporting (not undermining) the other parent (if there is a second parent)
- A willingness to let children struggle and sometimes fail
- Focusing much more on setting a child up to succeed and acknowledging them, than on catching them doing something wrong and punishing them
My Bill of Rights
My Bill of Rights (A paraphrase of the Five Freedoms by Virginia Satir) I declare the right to see what I see, hear what I hear, and remember what I remember. I declare the right to say what I see, say what I heard, and say what I remember. Nobody has the right to...
Using Anger as a Teacher
“He who angers you, conquers you” - Elizabeth Kenny It is neither realistic nor human to expect that we won’t experience anger. Anger is an old and deeply rooted response to a perceived threat. What we do with our anger, however, distinguishes the blathering,...
Limits only make sense in the light of consistent healthy agreements. In the discussion of healthy agreements, I explained the importance of treating one another with dignity and respect, regardless of the subject. These agreements ensure that no matter how difficult...