I have years of experience helping parents negotiate the challenges of parenting, step-parenting, parenting through divorce, parenting children who have mental health or substance abuse problems, and parenting alone. I have worked with children and their families in my private office, in residential care, partial care, scholastic, and hospital settings.
Effective parenting is often measured by:
- Demonstrating clear and respectful communication
- Avoiding arguments and power struggles
- Setting clear and realistic expectations
- Being consistent when you discover what works
- Being flexible when something is not working
- Supporting (not undermining) the other parent (if there is a second parent)
- A willingness to let children struggle and sometimes fail
- Focusing much more on setting a child up to succeed and acknowledging them, than on catching them doing something wrong and punishing them
My Bill of Rights (A paraphrase of the Five Freedoms by Virginia Satir) I declare the right to see what I see, hear what I hear, and remember what I remember. I declare the right to say what I see, say what I heard, and say what I remember. Nobody has the right to...
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